groggy update

March 27, 2009 at 12:13 am 5 comments

Hi all – a much needed update. Grandpa Bob and Grandma Barbara are here visiting and helping this week. I am on Spring break and trying to be helpful and productive all at once (I am not sleeping much, but it’s entirely not the boys’ fault). The little guys are essentially sleeping through the night every night. The only variance is whether they wake up at 5, 6, or 7 (i.e. whether they sleep for 10, 11 or 12 hours). People tell us this means we’re lucky, but I do not agree. Alex has holed up with Weissbluth’s Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child, the most impenetrable book in the English language, and divined from her meditations the proper path to baby sleep. These boys are scheduled, napping frequently and getting to bed early (7pm), and they are responding just as the book says they will. It is no small effort and Al has been the mastermind (with help and guidance from Jen), and we smile when we’re told we’re lucky, but it ain’t been luck. (It’s true we’re fortunate not to have an entirely collicky baby, though Levi occasionally enjoys playing the role. He’s squeaking as I type this actually, but I know his routine, and I know he’ll settle momentarily). 

I will post more photos tomorrow if I can – my laptop hard drive is completely full and misbehaving, and I can’t mess with this now. But today our boys had a visitor – one Jalen, who came to celebrate the end of RSV season with our brood (it officially ends in April, but the word on the street is it’s been a light year, and we’re gradually opening our arms and our home to the juvenile world). Here he is copping a peek at an unsuspecting Levi. 

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  • 1. Janne Tolonen  |  March 27, 2009 at 2:33 am

    Well if it is not luck, then we would gladly accept a few tips! Emmi at almost 8 months is still up at least twice a night! and thats a lot better than her sister was…
    Emmi is still mostly breastfeeding though, as did Sanni…

    But “good luck” to you guys anyway!

  • 2. shnootre  |  March 27, 2009 at 7:01 am

    Haha! Yeah – I’m sure there IS some luck to it, actually. But we were really determined from the start that, having three, the only way we could remain sane was to have them sleeping. Here are the basic tenets of the Weissbluth philosophy as I understand them (Alex can give you more details if you’re interested).

    1) Don’t let your babies get overtired. Until they’re about a year old, they should never be up for longer than 2 hours at a time (and that means total waking time, so they need to be put down to bed before the 2 hours is up).

    2) Look for signs of drowsiness…don’t wait for signs of fatigue or over-tiredness.

    3) Establish a regular schedule, but maintain some flexibility with it. What has seemed most important to us is to establish a very clear, soothing nightime ritual that signals bedtime, and also for that bedtime to be early. As we moved their bedtime earlier, we noticed that they actually sleep longer.

    4) Do not go to your baby (or babies) the instant he/she cries. By attending to your baby’s every whimper, you are depriving him or her of much needed sleep (because s/he enjoys the pleasure of your company more than her boring crib…but it’s the boring crib that’s gonna make the sleep happen). This is probably the most controversial part, since I know there are some schools of thought (“attachment parenting” comes to mind) that say you should never let your baby cry. Ever. With triplets, luckily, such thinking is just entirely unfeasible.

    Anyway – I was tired when I wrote this post. In the light of day (though still tired), I realize that all parents have their own experience with getting their children to sleep, and that it might sound a bit condescending to say it’s not luck at all. For all I know we’re the luckiest people in the world in this regard. I guess it’s just that we haven’t simply been surprised by our kids’ aptitude for sleep, we’ve done our best to cultivate it, following a system that is at times counter-intuitive (e.g. want your kids to sleep through the night? then make sure they sleep a LOT during the day!) but ultimately makes a lot of sense to us. I think having triplets makes a sleep schedule absolutely necessary, and we were thinking about this (and being coached by another triplet mom…hi Hilary!) before the boyzos were even born!

    No doubt exclusively breast feeding would complicate the situation, both because kids tend to digest breast milk faster, and because they don’t necessarily take it in such large doses all at once (we know our boys are getting 7 oz. (approx. 210 ml) of milk/formula at each feeding).

  • 3. Janne Tolonen  |  March 27, 2009 at 5:43 pm

    Thanks for the true tips!

    Now who is going to tell Emmi that her crib is a lot better than my forearm? (thats where she is asleep now)

    We are a lot smarter with Emmi… We learned most things the hard way, and Sanni was our guinea pig. At her expense, we are probably still erring badly. My child psychology sucks… Remember that Richard was my “role model”, wether I like it or not.. 😦

    Now please get as much rest as possible, and stay off your computer! Do it for the boys!

  • 4. Mag  |  March 28, 2009 at 3:16 pm

    Richard as role model sounds like an oxymoron. A little hard to imagine.

  • 5. weissbluthmethod  |  July 9, 2009 at 7:30 pm

    Ooh, it’s not so inpenetrable! You should check out Dad’s new book, Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Twins: You could pick up 1.5 copies!
    Anyway, We noticed that you referenced Dr. Marc Weissbluth. We wanted to let you know that we started a blog: . If you and/or the people reading your blog are interested in learning more about Dr. Weissbluth, than you should check us out or link up to us. We will not only be talking about sleep but will be addressing media, temperament, and other issues affecting children.
    -Daniel Weissbluth, MD


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